Plenty of fish

Hey y'all,

First of all, thanks for all the comments on the last entry. They made me feel a lot better. I'm still not totally over the disappointment, but it was a valuable lesson. While we're on the topic of "the spark," here's an interesting forum discussion I came across, on the aptly titled Plenty of Fish website: http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts13746195.aspx Seems like different people have different opinions about what constitutes a spark and whether one should be expected on the very first date.

I talked to Ben again tonight to confirm our plans for Saturday. Unfortunately, rain is in the forecast so it looks like a hike is probably not going to happen. Instead, we might ride go karts, haha. I'm looking forward to it, Ben is a really nice guy and really good looking too! Here's hoping it goes well, I still want to go on that hike!

Last night I had dinner with my friend Tom, who I see fairly often.  I've spoken about him before on the blog I think. Anyways, I decided to open up and come out to him, so I did that finally. He was pretty surprised (unlike Rick he had never speculated) but he took it well and assured me he was there for me. Meanwhile the waiter in the restaurant was really cute, haha.

Probably the next friend on the agenda to tell is my gay friend who just moved back to the area, the guy I've known since we were in elementary school.

While I told Tom that I am not 100% committed to a label yet (in fact I told him I'm not much a fan of labels), I suggested that if a 12 person jury were given all the evidence they would probably conclude me to be gay, haha. And honestly? That's fine. I just want a relationship that feels right and makes me (and my partner) happy. I want to be rid of the doubts.