I went out with Ben for the second time today and had a great time. We went go-kart racing, which was quite fun. Then we ate at a sandwich place and talked a lot. I really like him! We also talked a bit about our experiences coming out and dating. I told him about how I'm currently in the process of coming out to people, and it seems that he still has some family members to come out to himself. Though he is a bit more experienced than me, it turns out that he's also relatively new to the dating scene. He's been out for a while, but like me he didn't come to terms with his sexuality until after college (in fact he had a relationship with a girl during college). He considered himself bisexual before but now he's committed to dating guys. Getting all of that out in the open makes me feel much better. And we're already talking about what to do next time we meet up (finally going on that hike, perhaps?) When he dropped me off at my car we hugged, and he gave me a kiss on the cheek. If I had gone for it, maybe we could have had an actual kiss, not sure. Baby steps. I did want to make sure he knew I was interested in him, so when I got back to my cousin's place I sent him a bit of a flirtatious text (he's a teacher, and I told him I heard Van Halen's 'Hot for Teacher' on the radio and thought it was appropriate, haha).
Jake who? :-)
2 comments:
I think for you, your "spark" really is being comfortable around a guy, not so much the fireworks or weird feeling in your gut. You both can help each other navigate this gay world together and for your third date, go in for a real kiss, hold hands, cuddle, anything that ups the intimacy factor. At some point, you guys are going to want to have sex, and that will be a real milestone. Maybe then, you'll feel the sparks?
Glad things went well with Ben. :-) So far so good, here's hoping for more things to come! And keep Jake close as a friend, he may be a nice wall to bounce things off of from time to time.
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